One of our major problems stem from the fact that when our leaders are performing blatantly woefully, their supporters refuse to call them out or point their wrongs out to them.
They pat them on the back, sing their praises to everyone who is daft enough to listen and viciously attack anyone who dares to say a single word of criticism against their “fake” hero.
Until we start to tell each other – and our leaders the truth without fear of reprisals, intimidation or the cutting off of our small small handouts, I’m afraid Nigeria will continue to sink down the great abyss of self destruction it is currently sliding.
I have always openly said I am a supporter of President Buhari and even openly pleaded on ALL my platforms that he be given a chance to show his worth. This however will not stop me from pointing out areas where I feel he is simply not performing up to expectation and letting us down.
Needless to say I have faced some attack for that – even on my social media wall. But I strongly believe the truth must be told. YES he is our man. But we must not close our eyes and pretend we don’t know his administration is failing Nigerians. And by that, I mean – not the rich, connected and privileged who seem to be doing much better even under the nose of a President who came in under the auspices of ZERO TOLERANCE FOR CORRUPTION. I’m talking about the ordinary Nigerian on the street. Those who have no access to the corridors of government or big businesses. Those Nigerians who have to rely on bribery in the work place simply because their legitimate pay packet can only stretch so far – and that is when they are actually paid.
I’m talking about pensioners like my MUM who even though left active service over 10 years ago – is still having to beg for her legitimate and constitutional gratuities and allowances.
I’m talking about small businesses who have no choice than to sell the bulk of their goods on credit to clients that rely on salaries that are never paid.
I’m talking about frustrated students who are prevented from attending lectures because their tuition fees have not been paid – even though their parents are being owed several months salaries.
We are talking about Nigerians driven half mad by toxic fumes and incessant noise from electricity generators that are as common as the air we breathe in Nigeria.
I’m talking about Nigerians who have to bury their loved ones HAVEN being slaughtered while innocently going about their daily lives, by insane attackers or fulani herdsmem.
I’m talking about farmers who have had their farms unreasonably set on fire or crops eaten up by herds of cattle reared by herdsmen who have shown that they have no respect whatsoever for authority or indeed the lives and property of others.
I’m talking about Nigerians in a rich oil producing country who cannot get petrol for their tanks and even when it is available, the costs are almost unaffordable for the average citizen.
Yet many of the President’s sycophantic mouthpieces will not want him to see these, but chose to threaten those of us that dare to point them out.
But with false feedback, just how can our leaders know exactly how they are faring….or the true opinion of their people. When leaders who rely on aides and others surrounding them, cannot be be given the real picture of things by these so called advisers, then they are doing him a great disservice rather than favour. A leader that is constantly been fed lies and falsities will also not have the real picture of how exactly they are performing or how people truly feel about them or indeed of how bad things truly are so that necessary steps of action can be taken to ameliorate the ailing situation.
It is about time that our leaders surround themselves with bold, courageous and truly honourable men with integrity who will not just tell them what they feel they want to hear, but the real truth no matter how ugly or unpalatable it is. Not “Yes-men” and fearful little men with no liver who feel telling the bitter truth will be seen as a grievous offense that could be severely punished.
And while we are at it, I am still baffled by the fact that there are many out there who still “wail” and harass others about their corruption-encouraging, yam eaters- supporting, strong-drink guzzling, back-seat President GEJ? How anyone still thinks that fellow was anything but a mediocre leader is sincerely beyond my understanding!
This thought short but provoking write up showed up in my Facebook newsfeed this morning, I loved it so much that I decided to publish it on my blog.
It is made more poignant due to the fact that 4 out of 5 women must at some point in their lives, experienced at least one of the instances stated in the article. I am not sure of the gender of the writer – but I am betting it is a woman. A woman who has seen or experienced various manners of ill treatments being dished out to others mainly because they are women.
Women – even in this ultra modern day and age, still seem to be on the lower end of opportunities and chances than their male contemporaries. And even with all the talk of so called equality, you will still find women always drawing the shorter straws. The mind boggling revelation of the wide gap in salaries of male and female BBC presenters for example- including the so called top female personalities, is an excellent example that will tell you that women still lag way behind the males in consideration, even when both have exhibited same efforts, same results, same faults, same mistakes, same output, same achievements and same actions.
WHY DOES THE WORLD HATE WOMEN?
When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her.
A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend, the girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education.
A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady.
The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married.
A man divorces his wife today and the next day he is dating other ladies. 6 months later he is married. While the divorced woman is labeled a divorcee and remains single 6 years later.
A man loses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he’s done the right thing. He is being praised and congratulated for moving on and not dwelling on the past, after all life is for the living. But when a woman loses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, “Aaah! too early? Are you sure she wasn’t sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband…..
A married man is caught in bed with another woman, his wife is expected to forgive him and move on. But when married woman is caught in bed with another man, she is kicked out of her husband’s house.
A man gets transferred by his company to another state, the entire family relocates with him. The woman gets transferred to another state, she goes alone or resigns from the job.
If a man rises to be the CEO of the company, he got there by hard work and determination. If a woman rises to be the CEO of the company, even if the staff are all women, she is suspected of getting there by sleeping with the Board members.
*THIS IS THE WORLD WE LIVE IN. THE WORLD THAT HATES WOMEN. EVEN MANY WOMEN – HATE OTHER WOMEN*
So, the other day, I made a quick trip down to my local corner shop to pick up an item. Total cost £1.47. I handed the friendly Asian lady £1.50 who took my money, sat down and flashed me a half-smile.
I smiled back but waited…..
“Anything else, love?” She quipped
“Just my change” I responded
“Change.. ?” “How much did you give me” she asked, smile disappearing.
“£1.50” I said, sweetly.
So lady gets up again, opens cash register, fishes out 3p coins and throws them across the counter at me. Smile totally gone.
THANK YOU😁. GOD BLESS YOU 😁 I said very sweetly, picking up my 3p coins, flashing my biggest Baroness J smile😀😀😀
No way am I allowing someone to get rich on my account.
Imagine pocketing 3p from 20 people daily for the whole year (3p x 20 x 365) =£2,160
EMI KO!!! NO BE ME O!!!
I am a proud Ijebu woman from the South Western part of Nigeria and if tgere ua anything we are know for, it is our prudence and thrift.
I refuse to be short changed.
I pay for what I purchase. Nothing more and if I want to give to charity, it will be my decision. No one else’s.
POLITICS and the genuine desire to lead should be a passion developed from earlier on in a person’s life from school, college or university…and not suddenly entered into as a final status enhancing and wealth acquisition bid later in life after failing in other careers and professions
Many past UK leaders are alumnus of top leadership training institutions such as Eton and Harrow; and of pedigree universities such as Oxford. Elitist, yes, but students were trained and prepared for a life of leadership from quite young ages. They mostly all started in politics right from school as student activists and student union leaders.
Many of the UK lawmakers also started from grassroots levels serving the local community in various capacities and working as foot soldiers in their respective party wards – getting to learn and understand the ethos of service and leadership; familiarizing themselves with the locals, understanding their communities and constituents and getting to know their various needs.
But the average Nigerian politician, many of them, products of Nigeria’s failing education system, sees politics and leadership as a career change after having worked as a medical doctor, accountant, teacher, cab man, security officer or photographer in the Diaspora.
Without having in any way or on any level been involved in local politics, a car wash attendant in London will suddenly sell up, cash in his savings and credit card balance and get on the plane to Nigeria and before you can say Murtala Mohammad Airport you are seeing them on flyers and posters asking for your support as a candidate for a senatorial or gubernatorial bid!!!!!!
A major part of the problems we have with political governance in Nigeria is that many who venture into it see it primarily as a wealth acquisition enterprise rather than a call to service. They are enticed by the upgraded status to “Honourable senator” or “His Excellency”; the huge mouth-watering salaries, the sycophantic entourage that follows them about and all the other privileges that come with their office – and very little or nothing whatsoever about genuinely caring about the welfare of the people they are meant to serve.
Many Nigerians who (somehow) get elected into positions of power have absolutely no clue of exactly what they are expected to do. Many in the chambers have never in their entire lives given a public speech and lack the most basic skills. Watching the videos of some of them just makes one want to cry!!
It is an absolutely ridiculous idea to place people with very little or even no education or intelligence in positions of power where they are meant to be drivers of national policy making processes, or national lawmakers as they are more commonly known. How can someone who cannot string a single intelligible sentence together interpret the constitution?
How can someone who makes a speech that is, heavily laden not only with serious grammatical and syntax errors, but is also an unclear, meaningless, incomprehensible, indecipherable rant, present meaningful arguments that are meant to represent the case of his constituents or seek the betterment of his own people?
People who are poorly equipped, poorly educated and lowly in intelligence should never be trusted with the heart of any nation. This is the reason why Nigeria and many similar nations are in the quandary there find themselves today. Being led and governed by men and women with inadequate literacy or culture, meagre exposure to civilisation and unrefined minds is the main bane of Nigeria.
Yet these educated morons who form not a small part of our lawmaking chambers gleefully claim their high unmerited salaries and often ridiculously high allowances (wardrobe, hardship, newspaper etc)
The salaries of many of these misfits in 1 year can pay the salaries of 100 civil servants. And what they claim for newspapers can feed an entire village.
The salaries of most of these (dis)honourables unbelievably top the salary of the President of the United States of the United Kingdom’s Prime Minister!!!
The huge “rewards of democracy” for Nigerian politicians will undoubtedly be the reason why many flock to politics and many of them will do whatever and anything it takes to ensure the realisation of their political ambitions including getting rid of anyone standing in their way. Many of them employ the services of impressionable poverty ridden local youth or louts to deal with or even do away with their opponents or rivals. Others sell of family heirlooms and properties to fund their ambitions.
Assassinations and abductions linked to political rivalries are not uncommon and then there is the high unashamed bribery and payment of voters sometimes in full view of law enforcement officers at polling centres. Only in Nigeria are voters queuing to vote handed cash and gift incentives to vote for a particular candidate!
But on eventually managing to bribe and corrupt their way into the corridors of power, what do our lawmakers actually do? Many bills especially those that will not directly favour the lawmakers themselves, are kicked up, down and around the houses till they are almost forgotten about. However those that will have impact on them and their wallets and balances are those given high priority.
One must not forget one bill these lot have successfully swiftly passed in the past 2 years is lowering the marriage age to 13! An official bill in favour of peadophilia!!! Only in Nigeria!!! Perhaps because many of them has a great fondness for underage brides and little girls!
A great part of 1 year was spent deliberating their entitlements and rights while the rest of the country wallowed in poverty brought about by unpaid salaries, pensions and wages.
Many so called Nigerian Senators started off as impoverished ordinary men with failed careers and professions or disillusioned diasporans struggling for relevance. But within years of successfully obtaining the party ticket and unbelievable, yet clear elections into the Government House or Senate House – have suddenly become overnight billionaires (millionaires in Nigeria are now the poor relations).
I must quickly add that I do not see political aspirations or ambitions as undesirable or even wrong. However, what people must not forget that they are there first, foremost and primarily to serve the people and protect their rights and welfare and cater to their needs. Public service, whatever it’s rewards, must put the needs of the people first and above personal gain and self elevation.
But looking at Nigerian leaders and lawmakers, the reverse is the case.
In the US and the UK, you will find people who entered into politics primarily because they have a humanitarian issue that needs to be brought to the very centre of policy making. And on getting through the doors, they make the issue their lifetime issue throughout their tenure (eg environment, health, human rights etc)
But you will be hardly pressed to find a single Nigerian politician who has a personal area of interest that they make their “baby” or a project that they bring to the house with a view to enforcing changes to policies, that have direct bearing on issues affecting their constituents. For example, has any Nigerian lawmaker ever brought to any of the Houses, a bill to protect the rights of tenants? Many tenants pay exorbitant fees for shabby properties that have no running water or constant electricity supply. But in the UK, these are all rights that tenants are fully entitled to. But no Nigerian lawmaker has seen it fit to introduce bills that will give way to laws that ensure landlords provide these basic amenities for their tenants with failing landlords facing huge penalties and fines.
In developed countries, established lawmakers will willingly and honourably stand down and resign at the slightest whiff of a health related issue, family problems or even scandals and allegations of wrongdoings.
But their Nigerian counterparts will refuse to bulge, be bulged or even moved – regardless of the scale of their ill health or scandal.
Nigeria’s current President Buhari spent a huge part of 2017 on medical leave in the United Kingdom. Many called for his resignation due to his protracted absence from office and others questioned why a country’s leader saw it fit to spend such a long period of time receiving treatment from an undisclosed illness outside of the country. The calls for him to step down went largely ignored and the questions unanswered. But while Nigerians have chosen to forgive him for abandoning the country for well over 6 months, President Buhari is reportedly considering to run a second term in office and not surprisingly, many Nigerians are seriously opposed to this.
Nigerians including most of those who supported his candidacy for president are grossly disillusioned in Buhari and have lost their confidence in him. The general consensus is for him to peacefully retire after his time in office and make way for a younger more fit and able candidate. Outrageously, we had many politicians including state governors from his party, blatantly ignoring the wishes of the people and rallying round to call for the president to go for a second term!
In a civilized scenario, he would do the decent thing and step down on concluding his current tenure. The party stalwarts will take citizens opinion into account and elect to drop the candidate rather than risk losing the election and the concerned candidate will not want any of their actions to reflect badly on their party or affect their constituency.
But in Nigeria, our leaders are selfish, self involved, self absorbed and self interested.
Their sole desire for being in politics and leadership is not for what they can do for their country, its citizens or even their own party. It is all for them, about what they can get out of the system and how the system can benefit them. That is why you see them jumping like prostitutes, from the bed of one political party to another as soon as things stop working for them or according to their specific or personal agenda.
Many current Nigerian leaders, most specifically the Senate President Bukonla Saraki, have had their tenures dogged by legal issues, court cases and series of allegations of corruption. But rather than do the honourable thing and resign his post to face his legal issues, he has held on tightly and refused all calls to step down. He, with the alarming support of his fellow senators, many of whom took the unbelievable effrontery and audacity to leave their posts and accompany him on one of his court appearances, has continued in his role as Senate president while at the same time attending court and sitting in the dock as defendant on serious corruption charges.
And let’s also not forget those that see their position of power as a weapon to intimidate, cheat and bully those who are “below” them. Nowadays, we see Governors, Assembly men, Ministers, Senators and even Nigerian politicians in the Diaspora quickly resorting to legal action at the slightest provocation. In a particular case, a councillor took legal action for a post on facebook even though in no way whatsoever did the post refer to them!
This will never happen in a civilized world.
Holding on when calls are made for you to step down should never happen
Stepping into the race when you are ill or poorly equipped for the job should never happen
Going in for the sole purpose of making money and not to impact lives should never happen
There are many Nigerians with the right background, the right training, the right pedigree and the right motives who can do the job. Perhaps, even better. The time has come to make way for them.
No one should see the job of leadership as a lifetime occupation. Or as a means to self enrichment.
Leadership is about motivating others and encouraging them to fulfilling their own potentials.
Leadership is about carrying others along, not leaving them behind.
God says don’t fornicate, but we still fornicate, many of us regularly – even with other people’s spouses!
He says don’t steal, but many of us are big time fraudsters, 419ers & con artists.
He says don’t covert your neighbour’s possession, but many of us are as envious as satan himself.
He says love your neighbour as yourself, but many wake up each morning planning whom to fight!
We are instructed not to commit murder, but many of us commit murder every second by the words that come out of our mouth (or that we type on Facebook)
YET, WE ARE ALL UP IN ARMS ABOUT THE TINY ISSUE OF TITHES AND OFFERINGS!!!!
My friend, your hands are still unclean anyway so please don’t pay tithes joor. You are still a sinner!!!
God says HE loves a cheerful giver yet many Christians are cheerless, stingy, grumpy, hard hearted, ungrateful and thoughtless.
On Sunday, you will see them in their expensive clothes, haven driven down in the new jeep they will proudly park at a vantage point where everyone can see it – and sing “I love You Lord, with all my heart ” during service…
But when it comes to offering time, the love flies out of the window!
At my late father’s burial 15 years ago, the muslim clerics raised Itoro (offering) for all manner of ridiculous causes including the deluded prayer that I should have a change of heart and become a muslim (🤣🤣🤣🤣) yet the so called sympathisers rose and gave ungrudgingly and over-generously!!!.
In fact, the amount collected that day could have easily purchased a plot of land in Ijebu Ode!!!!!
Yet the muslims did not flinch or think of how ridiculous the request points were. They still gave nevertheless. I remember thinking shouldn’t all this money go to me and my younger ones….or at least to my mum, the deceased’s widow. But the alufas gleefully scooped up every last naira note and there was no doubt whatsoever where the loot was going but no-one cared…
Raise the same in a church and christians will frank face and sit on their wallets and kiss their teeth at Pastor!!! 🙂🙂🙂
Why are we Christians so stingy???
I wish Pastors can be bold enough to tell anyone who does not believe in tithing to keep their mouths shut..and their money to themselves – and see God raise up stones in their place.
Lord, I pray, please do not replace me o. Please give me the Grace, empowerment & willingness to do that which You want me to do in Jesus name. AMEN
In light and in the aftermath of the earth shattering stories and revelations of sexual harassment of actresses and models at the hands of top Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein and of course of others that are being daily revealed, it is certain that attitudes must change and the “workplace” must be made a safer place for women, and women can expect to turn up at work or at work meetings and not expect to be groped, manhandled, have their breast – regardless of the size, played with or fondled or be forced, bullied or blackmailed into taking part in a sexual act against their will or better judgement simply because the one “wielding the stick” has the power to make or break their career.
However, attitudes do need to change on all sides.
Top executives need to stop seeing actresses and models as pieces of meat there for the taking….
But actresses, starlets, models, artistes and even sportswoman also need to stop putting themselves out there as slutty sex objects.
Why do actresses and models have to do photoshoots in their underwear posing seductively and sexually wearing “I’m available, come and get me, big boy” looks?
Why do FEMALE singers or artists need to appear on stage in next to nothing and wiggle, writhe and dance suggestive sexual dances just to sing – while their male counterparts appear FULLY DRESSED?
As for our female athletes, their clothing many times are mostly distracting showing more of their asset than their prowess.
In movies, it is always the actress that will show the breasts and naked body even in sex scenes that usually involve two people but except in very rare occasions, you will hardly see a penis in a movie.
Many can argue that a woman owns her own body and can do whatever she wants with it or clothe it however she wants. But we do not live in an ideal world where everyone behaves in an ideal manner.
When you suggestively put sex “on the table” there are many who are going to assume there are being invited to came and eat!
Our world is full of decent, well behaved men. But it also has indecent, sick perverts in the same measure and it is naive for anyone to expect decent behaviour from every man whether they dress in filthy rags or expensive suits.
Attitudes need to change everywhere and Hollywood and the Global Entertainment industry needs to clear up their acts across the board. Expectations for female artistes to appear nude, naked or slutty in pictures, on film or on stage has to be reviewed and possibly eradicated or at least toned down several notches. There is too much sexiness assaulting our sensibilities nowadays and is it a wonder that many men are walking around with permanent hard-ons?
Most men see women as no more than sex objects and this is demonstrated by the way that many men treat their women or women around them. But should women help in encouraging and perpetuating this notion?
There are reprobate minded men who will take a look at a nun in a habit or a woman in a full niqab and still fantasize about what lies beneath all that covering and develop an erection in the process.
And for many of these reprobates, there is no shame, no restraint and no discrimination. Anything and anyone is game as far as they are concerned. And they can corner their target victims anywhere and anytime they please. Including their own office.
In the UK, the “Page 3” girls have disappeared from the Sun newspaper, but there are even more semi-naked girls in our music videos, at concerts, in some adverts and even in top TV shows like the BBC’s “Strictly Come Dancing”. Some of the costumes expected to be worn by the female dancers where many of the dance routines themselves, are already at best described as arousing, are really quite over the top sexy.
How much more when a woman is walking towards you or standing in front of you, scantily dressed in a very tight top with the erect nipples of her large boobs straining through the flimsy material of her tight tiny top, and her buttock cheeks topping her long sensual legs almost visible under her handkerchief sized flirty skirt …….
You see, that last paragraph was deliberate. Many men reading that bit would have had their mind wandering and imagining the vision – even just for a few seconds before adjusting themselves. So what do you think will happen if this woman was standing right in front of her boss who is also a sex mad brute?
Why would a woman turn up at a work related meeting in a seriously short skirt, very high heels and see through blouse, or what is nothing more than a “tiny tight dress” and expected to be taken seriously especially when a male colleague will turn up at the same meeting in a suit and tie with everything except his face and hands, covered up?
You won’t see a man walking the street or turning up at work in a sleeveless shirt or jacket and speedos with no trousers …why do women feel they are more attractive with less clothes with more flesh on display?
One of my favorite adages says “As you present yourself, so will you be accepted”
If you present yourself to your work colleagues, bosses or audience as a sexy play thing – whatever industry you belong in – surely you should expect to be taken as such?
Every woman wants to appear attractive and perhaps sexy in public….but near nakedness is not the only way to be attractive and sexy. And experiences and accounts have shown that women are attacked mostly because of they way they are dressed or at least how they are perceived based on their dressing.
Female A Class artists, models and actresses have a lot to answer for, for the deeper and lower fall in standards especially in the area of dressing particularly as they are globally viewed as role models for many young girls. Costumes, dance routines, and photo shoots are more of tools to highlight sexiness rather than showcase acting or singing talents.
NEW ORLEANS – JULY 02: Janet Jackson performs during the 2010 Essence Music Festival at the Louisiana Superdome on July 2, 2010 in New Orleans, Louisiana. (Photo by Sean Gardner/Getty Images)
Girls are taught from young ages to sit with their legs shut and crossed but take a look at Beyonce, Rihanna, Janet jackson, Rihanna, Miley Cyrus, Britney Spears and even Nigeria’s Tiwa Savage – all of whom have thrown this out of the window by making most of their dance routines about lewd crotch exposure and titillation, than about singing.
This is not the dark ages, as some liberal minded feminists would claim and possibly attack me on account of this article. But more importantly is for these feminists to look at some of the disadvantages of feminism. Women embracing the right, freedom or expectation to freely expose and display their sexuality and sensuality is doing no one any harm but women themselves. And even if a woman who has embraced that freedom has not been a victim of sexual harassment or abuse, how about the perception they leave in the mind of others about them.
We women should move on from relying on our bodies and feminine wiles to attain high positions and followerships and let our talents and abilities speak for us. Many women if they would be honest with themselves, know exactly what they are doing when they approach a powerful or connected man in a club or at an event, all dressed up – or down to the heels in scanty, figure squeezing mini dresses and the highest of heels. No red blooded male will claim to be unaware of the subtle yet strong message of enticement or seduction being passed and more than a few will take the bait and bite. Unfortunately, most women only do this to get attention without banking on the man haven had his attention caught, wanting to explore and see what else is available. This is the point that some women back off and cry harassment.
Brit actor Martin Clunes recently in an interview accused actresses of “flirting with movie producers in a manner he likened to “prostitution”.
“Some of these actresses, there are some draped over him in a club. “If I did that to them I’d be … I don’t know. “It’s not news that these predators allowed some people to … I don’t know. “Of course it’s absolutely ghastly. It’s a form of prostitution — the oldest game in the book.”
The bottom line and the final analysis is that both sides of the coin need to re-address themselves and re-evaluate their positions.
Women must not be seen as sexual objects in the workplace or indeed anywhere else. Women have the right to go any where and feel safe, without the fear that they will be pawed or harassed or forced to do what they have not expresses a desire to be a part of. Bosses and managers must ensure that their clients and employees are able to work in a safe and secure environment and any threats to that, dealt with and if necessary removed
But women must also realise that they have the responsibility of presenting themselves in the exact way they want to be addressed or accepted. Dressing like a wolf but expecting to be treated as a sheep should no longer be a prerogative of any woman.
As I said earlier in this article, there are many sick minded perverted men out there and I will in no way defend or condone sexual abuse or harassment perpetrated by these men.
But people also should not put themselves in vulnerable positions that will make them targets or victims of these sickos.