I am a huge fan of Nigerian Afrobeats queen Ms Tiwalade Savage.
Like many women my age and younger, I love her to a fault.
I love her songs and even know the lyrics to most of them. She is not only highly talented and intelligent. She is also flawlessly beautiful.
She is also a strong female role model that many little girls look up to and aspire to be – whether she asked to be or not.
Because the moment you step up to the centre stage, public or world platform, you become a role model. An inspiration and mentor to many. Even those you don’t know or would ever have the slightest conversation with will admire you and want to emulate you. Rightly or wrongly.
But it pains me when I see our little girls’ role models garbed in slutty, trashy and almost non existent outfits in order to publicize or promote themselves. And it does not matter whether they are on stage, at an awards event or a magazine photoshoot.
Last week, a picture emerged of serial tennis champion Serena Williams proudly exposing her naked bottom cheek on the front cover of a top fashion magazine. And recently, music queen Beyonce appeared in a dress that opened up all the way down, right from her pubic area.
TS’s recent picture donning a pair of shorts that not only left very little to the imagination, but also completely ripped at the back, exposing her naked bottom has left many scratching their heads in confused amazement.
I, am in no way or by any means a prude. Yes, I am a practising, active Christian but I also believe in liberality – within reason and in moderation.
I believe a woman can and should be free to showcase her self and her beauty to the fullest and in the best way possible. But I draw the line at nudity. Sexiness is not about being reduced to porn star levels. Neither does nudity portray your beauty – or talents.
Ironically, Tiwa, Beyonce and Serena are all married women with little kids.
They are also highly accomplished, awards, accolades and trophies winners with enormous talent between them. These are more than enough to speak for them without them lifting a finger…or even posing for a phone camera selfie.
Why then do they need near nudity to showcase themselves?
Is is that there are some underlying self confidence issues? Some inferiority complex that tells them if they don’t go naked, the world will not take notice of them?
It seems many of the pictures of certain black female celebs you see today, they are all competing to outdo themselves in the nudity stakes. Why do you see the male stars fully dressed and all covered up, but the women almost completely naked?
Is there some problem that I don’t know of, that affects female performance if they have clothes on?
I don’t think so.
In these “me too” days, we are hoping that the days of women not being blackmailed or coerced into sex in exchange for jobs or movie roles are behind us (wishful thinking, I know)
Unfortunately, many up and coming young women in diverse industries may still find they have to give their bodies in exchange for opportunities, regardless of their talents.
But what can we say of the already fully established ones?
While you may no more be conducting your auditions on the “casting couch”, you are still in a way selling sex for recognition.
You are telling the world that Tiwa, Beyonce or Serena – or indeed, any talented young girl cannot be accepted unless the world catches a glimpse of their nipple, ass or vagina!