Day: January 12, 2018

Man Posts Ad for Bride On Facebook, Finds Love And Marries 6 Days Later

 

Everyone who uses Facebook will have come across some pretty strange posts in their time.

Random friend requests, being added to groups you did not ask to join, and tags that allow “friends” to clog up your timeline with posts or photos you don’t necessarily want.

But a Nigerian man took that to a whole new level when he posted an unusual advert.

Chidimma Amedu put up a post on 30 December, asking any woman interested in being his wife to reply, he told the BBC.

The proposal

“Am of age to and I am ready to say I do and am wasting no time.

“Send in your applications – the most qualified will be married on January 6, 2018. Application closes 12 midnight, 31/12/2017,” he posted.

He then followed up with subsequent posts.

“Am serious about this oh and don’t say you did not see it on time. Good luck.”

He received a couple of responses, but one from a certain Sophy Ijeoma was the one which caught his attention.

“Am interested, just DM me…lols,” her post read.

At first, she thought it was a joke and she simply replied to keep the thread flowing.

 

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Man on a mission

A direct message from him to her inbox, followed by a Facebook call, would change her life’s trajectory.

Chidimma Amedu on his wedding day
Chidimma placed the advert initially as a joke but became optimistic when Sophy said she was interested

Two days after their first conversation, he travelled some 500km (300 miles) from his home in the northern city of Abuja, to Enugu in the east where she lived.

She had been waiting for him outside a retail store and in true fairy-tale style, “it was love at first sight”, she recalled.

“He is the most handsome man I’ve ever met and I liked him instantly.”

After two hours of “awkward” conversation, he asked her to go to meet his uncle, who incidentally is also resident in Enugu.

Asked what was going through her mind at the time, she said she thought it was all a bit of a joke, but she was excited about it and thought Chidimma was quite an interesting character.

Tradition meets modernity

“We got to the uncle’s house and he said: ‘Uncle, meet the woman I want to marry.'”

Like Chidimma, his family don’t seem to hang about when it comes to getting things done, because the uncle gave his approval.

The couple on their wedding day in Igbo attireImage copyrightCHIDIMMA AMEDU
Image captionThe couple had been friends on Facebook for over a year but had never spoken to each other before the advert

Getting family backing for your choice of spouse is an essential part of Igbo culture.

Whereas picking your future wife from dozens of respondents to a Facebook marriage advert and marrying her in six days is decidedly not.

At this point in their day-old relationship, it was beginning to dawn on Sophy that this fellow was not playing, but how do you commit to marrying someone you only just met?

She would not comment on whether they had even shared as much as a kiss at that point, but maintained she was captivated by how focused and determined her new fiancé was.

“When I saw him for the first time, I definitely found him attractive, but what I didn’t know was how serious he was about marrying me.

“It was after we met the uncle and his wife, that I realised that this could actually happen and I wanted it.”

The engagement

It was now her turn to worry about how she was going to get the approval of her family to marry a guy she had just met on Facebook.

But they had momentum going for them. Having met and fallen in love at first sight, or first message, if you like, and getting Chidimma’s uncle’s approval, the couple decided to complete the cycle by visiting Sophy’s family the same day.

A family member felicitate with the couple
Approval from the family is essential in Igbo tradition

Sophy recounted how she relayed the information to her mother. Her dad had passed away, and her mum said she did not have the final word in terms of giving approval for her to be married, so it was up to Sophy’s elder brother to give his blessings.

It would appear the odds were firmly in their favour as Sophy’s brother gave his blessings too.

So after a few questions from her brother, it was official – Chidimma and Sophy were engaged to be married in six days.

On the rebound?

Last year Chidimma was engaged to another woman and the wedding was scheduled for December, but the relationship fell apart in March leaving him dejected.

As December approached, the disappointment of not being able to fulfil his dream of getting married made him put up the post, he said.

The happy couple cutting their cakeThey got married on 6 January in a traditional Igbo ceremony

 

“I had the desire to get married, I had a date in mind, but no bride, so I decided to place an advert as a joke, but I was open and up for it.”

Asked whether she knew about his earlier engagement and her thoughts on how this seemingly rushed marriage might be seen as a rebound, Sophy dismissed any suggestions that her relationship was not well thought through.

“I don’t care about that – when you see what you want, you go for it.”

They had been friends on Facebook for more than a year, but had never met or spoken to each other until the advert.

“Am interested, just DM me…lols” was all it took for the union to be formed.

Sophy admitted her friends were sceptical about the whole thing, while some are still in disbelief, but as she said: “When you see the one, you will know he is the one”.

Happily ever after?

They got married on 6 January in a traditional Igbo ceremony, and posted photos of their wedding day on Facebook of course – to the amusement of the social media community.

Chidimma put up a post saying people may have thought he had been joking but he clearly wasn’t.

As can be expected, there were mixed reactions, but mainly a lot of support for the couple.

They hope to have a church wedding in April and perhaps a honeymoon somewhere nice, he said.

BBC

 

 

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Police Release Image Of Young Model Stabbed To Death In West London

This is the first picture of young British model Harry Uzoka who was tragically stabbed to death during a suspected botched street robbery in west London.

Harry Uzoka, 25, was signed with top London agency Premier Model Management which helped develop the careers of stars including Naomi Campbell and Claudia Schiffer.

He was found collapsed on a pavement on Old Oak Road, East Acton at shortly after 4pm on Thursday with a knife wound to his chest.

He is understood to have staggered through a nearby estate following a suspected “robbery gone wrong” involving a number of people, police said. Paramedics battled to save his life but he was pronounced dead at the scene.

He was signed with top London agency Premier Model Management. (Harry Uzoka/Instagram))

Tributes have flooded into the promising 6ft model, whose face had appeared on billboards in the UK and USA.

Mr Uzoka, who has more than 14,000 followers on Instagram, was also signed to Next Models agency in Los Angeles,

Recent modelling work included for leading British magazine Hunger, fashion brand Everlane in New York and high street clothing store Bershka.

Old Oak Road and part of Uxbridge Road was taped off by police as a crime scene was put in place on Wednesday evening. (Sean O’Kane, Twitter)

One Essex-based hip hop artist known as Cally the Dreamer told the Standard: “He went my school, was a few years below.

“He was a lad that I admired, changed his life for the better and inspired many to do better.

“Amazing young man with so much life a big loss to the world. A great human, prayers go out to his family.”

Mr Uzoka was believed to have been stabbed to death in a ‘robbery gone wrong’. (Harry Uzoka/Instagram)

DJ and musician O’Neil McDowall, who said he knew Mr Uzoka from a young age, said: “Being able to be a part of your life was a blessing for me!

“Seeing you at 11 playing football and then growing up to become a beautiful talented young man didn’t come as a shock.

“I knew you would go places! We spoke last week of how proud I am of you! I love you, H.”

Mr Uzoka’s photographs for high street fashion store Bershka. (Harry Uzoka/Instagram)

London fashion brand Yemzi was among those in the fashion and photography world who paid tribute to the young man, tweeting: “Such a special soul.”

Photographer Philipp Raheem said: “Rest well young king”  while Hunger Magazine tweeted: “We are beyond shocked and saddened to hear of the passing of model Harry Uzoka. Our thoughts are with his family and friends. RIP.”

DJ Kartel Brown called the news “heartbreaking”, adding: “One of the humblest and nicest people I’ve met. Rest In Peace bro.”

Mr Uzoka’s face has appeared on billboard adverts in the US. (Harry Uzoka/Instagram)

Another person, Lew Bloyce, called him a “young icon for black boys in the UK and London”, adding: “Absolutely shocking news.”

Ohene Kwaku, who runs African restaurant Kwaku’s Kitchen, said: “I’ve seen the young king Harry Uzoka’s face in a lot of places.

“It’s tragic and sad to hear his life has been cut short by cowards and the needless acts of knife crime yet again in London.”

Premier Model Management were unable to provide any comment but a source said the agency’s thoughts and priorities were with Mr Uzoka’s family.

The killing brings the number of murders in London in the first two weeks of 2018 to five. Police have confirmed four of the victims were stabbed to death.

 

Two men, aged 27 and 28, were arrested nearby on suspicion of murder and remain in custody. Police are continuing to appeal for information.

Met Police detective inspector Beverley Kofi said: “This is another tragic murder with a young male victim who has met a violent death.

“We believe that the incident started outside Ollgar House, in Ollgar Close and the victim was assaulted and stabbed before staggering and collapsing in Old Oak Road.

“We believe there were a number of people involved, but we are still working to establish the circumstances and a possible motive.

“We have made two arrests and continue to pursue a number of lines of inquiry. We need to public’s help to piece together what happened – who the victim was seen with, the incident itself and the immediate aftermath.

“If you were in the area at the time and saw anything that could be of significance to the investigation, we would urge you to get it touch right away.”

Anyone with information should call Hammersmith and Fulham Police by dialling 101.

London Couple Admit To Murdering French Nanny And Burning Her Body

A couple have admitted to murdering a French nanny and perverting the course of justice by attempting to dispose of her body by burning it.

The charred remains of Sophie Lionnet, 21, were discovered in the garden at a house in Southfields, south-west London, on September 20 last year.

Designer Sabrina Kouider, 34, and her partner Ouissem Medouni, had initially denied murdering Ms Lionnet, of Wandsworth, who was originally from Troyes in north-east France.

They pleaded guilty at the Old Bailey on Friday to a second charge of perverting the course of justice by attempting to “dispose of the body of Sophie Lionnet by burning”.

 

At first police were unable to identify the body, but later confirmed it was that of the nanny.

french nanny

Wearing a white shirt and black blazer Kouider appeared tearful as she sat in the dock. She was helped to follow the hearing by a French interpreter.

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Her partner, dressed in a burgundy sweatshirt, paused for a short time before entering a guilty plea to perverting the course of justice.

Former UK Education Minister Justine Greening Blocked Attempts To Reduce University Tuition Fees And Students’ Loan Interest Rates Says Ex May Aide

Theresa May’s former chief of staff has accused the former education ministers Justine Greening and Jo Johnson of blocking attempts to reduce university tuition fees and reform higher education.

Nick Timothy, who quit the prime minister’s office after last year’s general election, claimed the former education secretary and universities minister blocked proposals to reduce interest rates on student loan repayments and allow institutions to charge different fees.

Writing in a column in the Daily Telegraph on Thursday, Timothy said the ideas could be revived by the government after this week’s reshuffle, in which Greening resigned after refusing to be moved to a different department and Johnson was shifted to the Department for Transport.

Timothy also denied any involvement in Greening’s departure, but said the former education secretary “put the brakes on policies that work”.

He wrote: “Young people must be given better choices at 18. Right now, the incentives tell them to go to university. Many emerge with good degrees, but others come out with a costly qualification that makes little difference. On average, they will graduate with debts of £50,000, the highest in the world. Those who do not go to university – still more than half of young people – are neglected by a system guilty of institutionalised snobbery.”

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Theresa May’s former right hand man Nick Timothy quit after the last elections

Timothy also urged the new education secretary, Damian Hinds, to support the prime minister’s universities policy review.

“Greening blocked proposals to reduce tuition fees and refused to hold a proper review of tertiary education. Hinds must be brave enough to do that, to ensure universities are better, fees are lower, and young people get the technical or academic education that suits them. He is already touted as a potential future prime minister: if he gets this right, he will be a convincing candidate for the job,” he said.

Higher education policy is rumoured to be an important part of May’s plan to win back young voters, who overwhelmingly backed Labour leader Jeremy Corbyn’s agenda during last year’s election.

The Guardian

Trump Describes Haiti, African Nations As Shithole Countries

President Donald Trump referred to Haiti and African nations as “shithole countries” during a meeting with a bipartisan group of senators at the White House, a Democratic aide briefed on Thursday’s meeting told NBC News.

Trump’s comments were first reported by The Washington Post, which said the nations referred to by Trump also included El Salvador.

The remarks sparked condemnation from politicians of both parties and prompted Haiti’s foreign minister to summon U.S. Chargé d’Affaires Robin Diallo for clarification.

Two sources briefed on the conversation say that during the portion of the conversation about Haiti — which came at the top of the exchange that led to the “shithole” comment — the president questioned why Haitians should be given specific consideration.

“Why do we need more Haitians, take them out,” he said, according to sources. Someone else in the room responded: “Because if you do, it will be obvious why.”

 

The comments came as senators huddled in the Oval Office with the president to discuss a path forward on an immigration deal. Trump questioned why the United States would want people from nations such as Haiti while he was being briefed on changes to the visa lottery system.

According to the aide, when the group came to discussing immigration from Africa, Trump asked why America would want immigrants from “all these shithole countries” and that the U.S. should have more people coming in from places like Norway. Thursday’s meeting came one day after Trump met with Norwegian Prime Minister Erna Solberg at the White House.

A source familiar with the meeting told NBC News the president was particularly frustrated during discussions about the visa lottery system — a program Trump has railed against repeatedly in recent months. Another White House source explained the language Trump used as his way of trying to emphasize his support for a merit-based immigration system.

The White House issued a statement that did not deny the remarks.

“Certain Washington politicians choose to fight for foreign countries, but President Trump will always fight for the American people,” White House Deputy Press Secretary Raj Shah told NBC News in a lengthy statement.

“He will always reject temporary, weak and dangerous stopgap measures that threaten the lives of hardworking Americans, and undercut immigrants who seek a better life in the United States through a legal pathway.”

Haiti Ambassador to the U.S. Paul G. Altidor called Trump’s comments “regrettable” and based on “clichés and stereotypes rather than actual fact.”

The ambassador underscored the indelicate timing of the comment, pointing out that Friday is the eighth anniversary of the 2010 earthquake in Haiti, which is estimated to have killed well over 200,000 people.

Altidor said that since the reports of Trump’s remarks, he had been “bombarded by emails from the American public apologizing” and said he knew Trump’s comments were “not the views of the American public.”

The African Union said it was “alarmed” by Trump’s statement. “Given the historical reality of how many Africans arrived in the United States as slaves, this statement flies in the face of all accepted behavior and practice,” spokeswoman Ebba Kalondo said, adding that it was “particularly surprising as the United States of America remains a global example of how migration gave birth to a nation built on strong values of diversity and opportunity.”

In Lagos, Nigeria, IT worker Mayowa Okuwade said: “I think every African country should just learn from this and probably just stay in their country and work with their resources … I am very much sure things will get better.”

Others quickly decided to own Trump’s language or throw it back in his face. “Good morning from the greatest most beautiful ‘shithole country’ in the world!!!” South African Broadcasting Corporation anchor Leanne Manas tweeted.

Republican Rep. Mia Love of Utah — the daughter of Haitian immigrants — released a statement calling Trump’s comments “unkind, divisive, elitist, and fly in the face of our nation’s values” and demanding an apology from the president.

And Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, R-Fla., said in a tweet that the reported remark “ignores the contributions thousands of Haitians have made to our #SoFla community and nation. Language like that shouldn’t be heard in locker rooms and it shouldn’t be heard in the White House”.

It’s not the first time reports have surfaced of Trump speaking unfavorably about immigrants, and Haitians in particular. The New York Times reported in December that Trump said Haitian immigrants “all have AIDS,” during a summer 2017 meeting about immigration.

According to the Times, Trump also targeted Nigerian immigrants during that meeting, complaining that once they came the United States they would never “go back to their huts.” The White House vigorously denied the claims in the story at the time.

NBC NEWS